There has been so much talk surrounding this book and now movie series. People, to say the least, have some pretty strong views about it. Some question its literary value, others question its negative themes and some people really don’t care at all.
I’ve read the entire Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy and as of recently watched bits and pieces of the movie that I could find because I was intrigued to see how they would handle the film given the hype and the taboo nature of the writing. I thought (probably a bit stupidly) that I would add my thoughts to all the noise because all of this whiplash surrounding the phenomenon has quite frankly moved me to do it.
This first idea is the one that is bursting to get out. SUPPORTING THIS FILM OR BOOKS DOES NOT MEAN YOU SUPPORT RAPE/DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ETC. I have been appalled at some of the things I’ve heard people say in person and on social media about the people who are going to see the movie or have read the books, it’s almost bullying. Why should one person tell another person what they can and cannot enjoy or love? If someone likes the Fifty Shades of Grey books, who are we to judge? Having read the books myself, I can definitely see why other people would like it. If they are going to see the movie, who are we to tell them that they’re wrong and stupid? It’s a fantasy at its core and don’t we all want to experience our own? (G rated and higher).
Secondly, many people are quick to judge without even reading the books. That is why I read them. Because I didn’t want to make a judgement about it when I hadn’t even experienced it myself. And whilst I didn’t particularly think that they were great, I did enjoy them. People just jump in with their, “it’s trash, mommy porn, Ana’s just stupid and naïve, this movie supports rape, it’s complete and utter abuse, a disgrace to literature” views without even having the courtesy to read the books or see the movie. How are you supposed to judge if you are completely shut off from the topic? It’s like saying you love donuts without ever trying one. I would like to point out that in the books Christian and Ana spend whole nights talking about their own limits and what they want, carefully selecting things that are ok and things that aren’t. Also, everything done is consensual, that’s the big point. And at the few points where she says ‘stop’, Christian stops.
Thirdly, BDSM is a controversial issue. Is it portrayed correctly or incorrectly in this film? I don’t know. Is it abuse? Perhaps mentally, but not physically. I’m a firm believer of that.
I just felt like I needed to get this out there into the world. Let me know your thoughts on the book of the movie in the comments. I’m genuinely intrigued to see what others think about this topic.
I apologise for any mistakes in the post, I’m writing this on my phone 🙂
Thank you for reading and I’ll talk to you in my next post.